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Nov. 20th, 2005
Birthday Spam
Nov. 20th, 2005 08:01 pmAs I've mentioned to several people, today is my parents' birthday (yes, both of them) as well as ![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
jhyanmar's. The siblet and I had planned to go over there (there being my Dad's place) today to do Birthday and Thanksgiving things with him.
Now I could have told you when the plans were made that Dad was highly likely to cancel, and he didn't disappoint me: This morning he called and told us not to come over, using such dazzling logic as "There's three of you there so you can do something and I'm alone." Because, err, if the siblet and I went over, there would be three there.
...And of course, this evening he called to complain about being lonely.
Which I knew he would do as well. Because frankly? All he wanted was more reasons to mope and more reasons to drink.
He says sometimes that we 'need' to tell him when we can see him indulging in pre-drinking, aka rationalizing behavior. And I can only think of the times he's yelled at us for pointing out when he IS drinking because he has it under control so we can't tell so we must be making it up and the fact he's really drinking has nothing to do with it.
And in my little head I laugh and go "Yeah right." Because, dude? He'll stop or he won't on his own. Pointing out he's starting to rationalize will only make things worse, since, well, he's /rationalizing/. It will become a "I'm so put upon! Well, since they expect no better of me, I'll drink!"
Sometimes it makes me really sad I can predict his behavior so well. Since it's all so destructive.
Sorry. This will probably be my last post today.
jhyanmar's. The siblet and I had planned to go over there (there being my Dad's place) today to do Birthday and Thanksgiving things with him.Now I could have told you when the plans were made that Dad was highly likely to cancel, and he didn't disappoint me: This morning he called and told us not to come over, using such dazzling logic as "There's three of you there so you can do something and I'm alone." Because, err, if the siblet and I went over, there would be three there.
...And of course, this evening he called to complain about being lonely.
Which I knew he would do as well. Because frankly? All he wanted was more reasons to mope and more reasons to drink.
He says sometimes that we 'need' to tell him when we can see him indulging in pre-drinking, aka rationalizing behavior. And I can only think of the times he's yelled at us for pointing out when he IS drinking because he has it under control so we can't tell so we must be making it up and the fact he's really drinking has nothing to do with it.
And in my little head I laugh and go "Yeah right." Because, dude? He'll stop or he won't on his own. Pointing out he's starting to rationalize will only make things worse, since, well, he's /rationalizing/. It will become a "I'm so put upon! Well, since they expect no better of me, I'll drink!"
Sometimes it makes me really sad I can predict his behavior so well. Since it's all so destructive.
Sorry. This will probably be my last post today.